It is a common thought that fathers are special because they are the pillar of a family. A pillar!
And that brings me to thinking that fathers really got a big role in a family unit. Lucky are those kids who have complete set of parents. They have a father and they also have a mother. For sure, you know that I am not talking about biological explanation. I cannot say, though, that those who have one set of parent only are unlucky ones.
A single parent who plays both roles in rearing up children is really a tough job. I think it’s not gonna be a perfect parenting, but if it is really a situation where there is peace in the family, then single parenting can be a choice for the sake of a child/children.
I love to see girls spending quality time with their dad. They don’t mean that they love their mothers less but I just knew that little girls share extra special bond with their father. A father who share
wonderful father-daughter bond is an awesome dad.
What do you think?
Fathers today are taking a hands-on, active role in parenting. It is important to remember that a strong foundation for a family is the partnership between the mother and the father. And this relationship needs careful maintenance now. I am just so lucky that my husband is very supportive (and I also know how to balance everything, though), and he understands that I am a first time mom, and that we are still adjusting to my responsibility with our daughter.
I guess all parents go through major changes once a newborn baby arrives, except for well-off families. This period includes the joy of getting to know your child, as well as the demands of feedings and night walking. It leaves less time and energy for your relationship with your partner. The mother’s focus is on the baby, especially if she is breastfeeding. It’s normal to have mixed emotions about the new responsibilities as a father. As the father adjust and gain confidence, nothing will come close to the joy and love he begin to feel for the newest member of his team.
A friend of mine came across this quote and she giggled. “A daughter is a mother's gender partner, her closest ally in the family confederacy, an extension of her self.” I asked her why, and she said, " I believe that I am really my mom’s gender partner because I literally grow up very close to my mom and we almost do things together".
I think mothers and daughters share a very close bond if compared to other members of the family. I do not mean though that sons and moms are not that close, they even said that most have that latter bond which is son and mom that so close. They are but nothing beats a mom and daughter closeness, I think.
I love my daughter very much and somehow when she also grows up to be and adult and decide one day to start her own family, she will be able to share a bond with her kids closely like what we do now. I love my daughter to death. She is the sunshine of my life.
My toddler daughter SAM, just turned 21 months old can already do a lot. She can't speak that much yet and I even think she's a little delayed because of her oral aversion., but nonetheless because she can already utter few words and keeps on imitating me when talking to her (not every time but when she's relax, she's always on the go, as in curious in everything her hand can reach). I just have to keep closely on her speech development and eating status. And teach her more.
It has been months (maybe two or three months ago or so), she started keeping an eye on my feet that every time my feet are naked, she has to find my slippers or shoes and put it back on. It has been her habit, I think, and it amazes me. She's very busy toddler but never forgot to take a look at my feet if it has slippers/shoes on. Ha! She can also open our door bathroom as well as close the doors every time it is open. Looks like she's a door guard, I always tease that to her. :) She can do much more like putting trash in a trashcan, and the likes.
She can also relay a thing on her hand from our living room and just give instruction to give it to her dad in the bedroom --- she always does it perfect. She's a perfect little helper! ;-)
My SAM now understands more and I feel happy with that!
Here are some ways to boost your child’s vocabulary: A mommy or a parent must talk as much and as often as you can directly to your toddler, whether it is carrying on an actual conversation, singing a song or reading to her. Look at her while you talk. Let her see your face and your gestures.
Repetition is the key. If you read her a story, don’t get tired of reading it again and again. Repeat concepts taught as much as you can. Children’s songs are a great way to teach concepts by repetition. Example: My toes, my knees, my shoulder, my head.
Talk to her as you are talking to a grown-up. Kids in a learning journey say the cutest things, such as “wee-wee” for pee, “tenchu” for thank you, “pleet” for please, but don’t let these tempt you into mimicking them during conversations. Hearing you use baby talk may just confuse your toddler and won’t help her language development.
Most of the time we mommy(ies) just cannot get enough sleep because we have work to be done urgently, let alone taking care of our toddlers/kids/babies, and sometimes for those working mommies who work for a certain company which they shift from day to night then for the another week or month will going to shift from night to day -- that such more difficult, I think.
So there is no consistency in the time you slept at night, because of that you cannot get enough sleep, even though you have done your work early but in most nights you slept like 2:00 a.m. or 3:00 a.m. for an example, still even you want to rest early that night still you cant slept, what I did to make my eyes tired and slept early is to read books or listen to mellow music of my little one's favorite lullabies in Pandora (in this way, she and I can sleep together) especially when insomnia attack.
To have enough sleep is very important. This can help our body regain more strength in the next day of working at home or in the office. So make sure to have enough sleep, take vitamins or drink milk before sleeping time.
A speech delay is basically a communication disorder among children who fail to converse properly when compared with other children of the same age. The cause may be because the child is busy learning other skills or she does not get much attention on her speech. Poor balanced diet and emotional stress may also contribute to speech delay. Or, those children whose parents are abusive are likely to have speech delay, mainly due to lack of communication. At times, physical causes such as mental retardation also lead to speech disorder.
Remember that just like other areas of development, a child develops verbally at her own pace. Some toddlers are already point out their body parts before they walk, others not well into their second year. Whatever the case, be patient; as long as you are exposing her to talking or talking to her often, then you just have to sit back and let nature take its course.
Nowadays, mostly both parents are working in order to live comfortable, to sustain the needs of the family and in order to send their children to a good school. However, there are some disadvantages of over-delegating task to the caregiver or to the school, to watch out their children's manner and to care with them at home is not an obligation of the caregiver anymore (unless if one of the parents is the caregiver as as well -- or she's the one taking care of the child, mostly a mom which is often called as stay-at-home-mom) but it is the the parents obligation! On the other side, if you're delegating (should I say, over-delegating) your task to other person (or the caregiver), the effect to the children on that case is that they are more comfortable with their nanny(ies) than to the their parents, the worst case is that the child won’t go anymore with their mom and dad but they want more to be accompanied with their nannies. That’s why even once a week you must have time with your family, family bonding is needed, in order for your children to feel that you are not too far from them.
A thought of family bonding is up to you couples. You can make your very own bonding on your very own ways that both of you will be satisfied in all ways.
You woke up in the morning, taking a bath, preparing your needs to go to the office, you're working the whole day and once got home you’re so tired and want to sleep early to gain more energy for the next day. Yeah, most parent who are striving hard for their family to have a better future for their kids, somehow there is an effect to the kid(s) with this kind of matter --- they feel they are alone, they don’t feel the comfort of a mother. The tendency of this is, they will get the comfort from other people. In order to get closer with them, you must give time together your kids, enjoy with kids in the park when weekends, show to them your support in every activities they will involved, with that they will gain confidence and feel that they are very important.
Luckily me I am not working at all! So, I am 100% focus to my dear daughter. Yes, I am a Stay-At-Home-Mom and a Homemaker. It's great taking care of her, despite of tiredness and stuffs, especially that I'm a first-time mom, but I am loving it and that's what it matters.
Nearby city parks can also provide an opportunity to get closer to nature. Parks provide open space for locals to get fresh air and for children to run around and work out their wiggles. Trees help clean the air and provide habitat for birds and squirrels. They offer physical relief and visual respite, too. Green spaces break up the monotony of structures and roads, and offer people a chance to take a breather. We are lucky that our home is near to the park. I can bring my daughter in the park if the weather is good. She likes to run and run around, and she likes to play with the other kids too. I let her sit on the grass, crawl everywhere, and lay down on the grass. The bad thing is, when it is time to go home, she screamed and doesn't like to go home, so as a mother, I have to do a trick again. Ha! :)
Understanding our child’s temperament (or temper) is the key to raising a well-adjusted child, and feeling more effective as a parent. Her temperament determines how she reacts and interacts with the rest of the world. Knowing this, you can adjust your parenting strategies to suit your child accordingly, and as she grows, you can also teach her how to cope with the world based on his temperament. Finally, you can fully appreciate your child’s unique personality and love her for the wonderful creation that she is.
Anyhow, I am glad that my daughter enjoyed the outdoor. She enjoyed riding a mini-scooter, and I was trying to teach her on how to ride or use with it. But of course, I was at her back all the time. She walks, run a little, fell down, and got up again. I let her explore the surroundings because her pediatrician told me that children who have not had the chance to explore or whose development has not been properly monitored have a harder time playing with other children.
Every mom has their own experience on the first birthday of their child. Some have good memories, and unfortunately; some have not. But most moms as much as they could, wanted to have a memorable birthday celebration on the first birthday of their child most especially if it is their first one. Usually, it is the mother who has lots of ideas on making the 1st birthday party as the most joyful birthday celebration of their child.
Typically, if it is a child’s birthday, we usually have a theme. You can then find several beautiful and very eye-catching 1st birthday party decorations and supplies, great Disney Princesses designs and themes that are perfectly planned. Also one of the must-have is some kind of designed for boys like Sesame Street and Elmo desig and many more.
One of the stuffs that moms at look out is the prices, if it is reasonable enough. For most moms, 1st birthday is the most important event of a child’s life. Thus, if you have a child now that will celebrate his or her 1st birthday so soon, then look for the best place to shop for party theme, decorations and supplies. Good luck! :)
It is the parents responsibility to take care of the baby. The baby’s first year is the best time to prepare him or her for a happy future. Thus parents should know the proper steps to follow in caring for a newborn and what his or her needs are. A newborn baby sleeps most of the time. Enough sleep and rest is needed for physical health. Since the baby sleeps a lot, he/she should be placed in a crib protected from mosquitoes and other insects.
To prevent diaper rush, make sure that the baby is always clean and dry. Be careful in changing the baby’s diaper. If the baby has had a loose bowel movement, do not remove the diaper at once but fold the soiled portion under. Wipe the anus with moistened cotton, and then wash with soap and water. Babies should feed with the recommended amount of prepared milk products. There are many powdered milk good for infants although mother’s milk is still the best for the baby.
I would like to ask this to all mothers. How do you manage holding an academic position while being a wife, mother and homemaker at the same time? Well, I am not currently employed in a company. I stayed at home all day and night together with my little angel of my life. I sometimes blog if I get a chance. And now, I realize that many women today live in a similar situation.
In this stage, mothers performing other roles do not sound uncommon. The question perhaps which these well-meaning friends really want to ask is this: How do you behave as a wife, subordinate to your husband, while occupying your time with your child? Truthfully, it is hard. I am just lucky because my husband never acted like a king in our home. In fact, he has time to take care of our only child when he gets a chance, or sometimes even if he is tired from work. He likes being with his little angel. Just like when he arrived from work today, instead of laying his back on the bed, so he could rest for a while, he played with Sarah. That was really an awesome scene for me. I just hope that hubby will always be a devoted father to Sarah, and a supportive husband to me.
While Sarah is sleeping, I have time to do my online activities. Talking about online activitites such as updating my blogs, visiting my virtual friends on Facebook, or talking with my family back home. And if I still have time, I tried to search for baby clothes again. Sarah has lots of baby clothes but I couldn't help myself not to shop for her clothes, accessories and even toys. I wouldn't mind if I don’t shop for myself. I just love to see cute baby stuffs for her and if only Sarah has long hair, I so love those hair accessories which I have found online. Anyway, cute hair clips will do on her hair, but I am scared if she pulls it and plays with it. I know it is not safe for Sarah to play hair clips.
I also found cute stuff toys at the store nearby and I wanted to buy it if money is available. DH always remind me not to shop too many clothes for Sarah because she couldn't wear it for the long time because babies grow so fast, and I agree with him. Even so, honestly, I still shop Sarah’s clothes, and I sometimes hide it. Ha! A few days later, hubby will know it but he can do nothing but to smile when he sees that her daughter is so lovely with her new dress. :-)
Adding accessories to your home, indoor or outdoor can also turn your place from simple to eye-catching. I am talking about putting a unique design of
house address plaques. Whenever I and my husband (with our little one) goes for a walk around the village, we usually observe beautiful houses specifically house design. Most of the houses have their own very nice
house signs. Some were very simple, others are very attractive. There are also homes in the village that have a home address printing on ordinary mail boxes.
Ours is just a simple address sign that mounted to the wall. We have been planning to replace a nice but not too fancy home sign but the husband always putting it on his last lists which I understand it because the baby's need or our family need has to come up first. I told him that if he has time and budget to shop for
address signs, or
address plaques, I wanted a sign that has a good-quality, and it will last long regardless of the weather because I was planning to put it outside. There are so many ways in which you can make your home truly your own. I just want the one that has the simple letters and numbers design that could easily be seen by the people, especially the delivery men.
Going on a family vacation is a great bonding activity that every family should take advantage of. Traveling to a place that allows the family to explore places and engage in different activities can make them feel closer to each other. Family vacations are also a great way for each family member to feel less stressed and just enjoy the wonderful places they visit and the various fun activities that they choose to engage in.
In looking for the perfect family vacation destination, it is important that you find a place that offers different family friendly tourist spots.
Central New Jersey can be just the perfect vacation destination that your family can go to. Parents can take their children to the various children friendly museums, water parks and amusement parks. There are also art galleries and museums that can give your family a taste of arts and culture. Older members of the family who love to go on an outdoor adventure can visit the many trails, parks and waterfronts that can let them enjoy fully the beauty of nature. Nightlife is as colorful because you can spend them dining at a fancy restaurant or bar after watching a musical.
If you want to make the most out of your family vacation, you can take advantage of the hot deals in Central New Jersey that offers affordable vacation packages. You’ll get to find the best accommodations, visit the places that you want and engage in activities that your family prefers. With these affordable family vacation packages, you’ll get to have that memorable family vacation that you have always wanted.
I am very thankful for what I have now. I am a proud momma, mama, mother, mommy, momi, mami or whatever you called of, being a "mom". I may not be perfect but of course this life is what I want to be. There are some circumstances which cannot be avoided along the way that bothers me but of course this is life. I was, am and will embrace it the way it is. Challenges are just a decoration of life, spices as mostly said. And I know everything will be alright in time as looking forward of what would gonna cross my way, the challenge.
Being a newly mom is fun but not easy. On the other hand, I know I will get used which I am exercising it now. :-) Now, I can really relate what my granny told me before (I grew-up in my grannies). There were times that I complaint to my grannies about simple things before and my grannies told me that you will know how to be a mom when you become a mom of your own. Indeed right! Proven and tested.
Sam is still a baby yet I know how hard to be a mom. I salute how my grannies managed me. They brought me up in the right way, giving good education and good moral until I am on my own. What I am now is their fruit of their labor of bringing me up. I missed them. Okay, I am now a certified mommy and this journey is what it makes it more meaningful. I love it!
I don't know if you believe that but I believe so. It is not to brag but I see myself a happy person, a jolly one. I don't like giving the negative thoughts an idea for me to be wicked, to be a weak. That is not me. If I have some problems, I have to solve it calmly, not by talking it to everyone to have their sympathy and pity on me unless if it's time for me to give-up to which I cannot do it my own. I call that a happy, jolly one. If it's not what you think or reject my thought, then I don't know what you're thinking. I just hope it's positive since if it's the opposite, it won't give you a lift, raise you up and higher than me that way. Hep!
Alright, beware of the negative vibes, I believe so. "Break the chain connecting to the negative things, negative people and alike" because it won't give us a good life, but lead to destruction, I so believe. Hence, let's be optimistic and lively because our child/children/peers and even stranger will imitate that to us, don't you think so? You know we bond with them.
Have a great day/night mommy/ies and everyone!
Being a mother is really a huge role for it brings a lot of meaning to every child. It is one unique blessing that God gave us mothers, not just to do the things for us but to give us love every time we need it, for without mothers there is no “us”. I remember one time, when I was still in grade school, my grandmom (who took care of me instead of my mom. She's a mother to me) used to wake up early to prepare things for me before I go to school, that time I haven’t realize the importance she gave me and never thanked her at all (that time), until I have my own daughter to do the same how she did to me, I just hope one day when my daughter grow up he can realize the things I did for her as well, that for sure is immeasurable.
The time you gave birth to your child will truly explains the vital role of a mother, from the start of conceiving up to the end even taking care of your grandchildren will also take place, a very extended one, but still its really true and it happens. Mothers will never stop caring for their children.
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