I know of many moms who are very workaholic. Workaholic in the sense that they have more than three jobs and they are also the one bringing and picking up the kids I school. Full time mom!? Oh how did they do it? I bet they are wonder woman or I can say that they are also a superwoman, in addition to the former.
A person works away from the home and she hired someone to take care of her two toddler kids. She said that she wish to be at home, but to meet all the responsibilities in their life as family, she has to help her hubby earn so that they can continue living their comfortable life.
Thanks to her hired nanny, she can work away from home with confidence. Her nanny is very responsible and took care of the kids like they were here own children. So she never got a headache thinking of her kids (while she's at work) being mistreated. She is just so lucky. I bet that is the nice thing of having a very prayerful nanny.
How I wish I wish I am that mom.
It is a common thought that fathers are special because they are the pillar of a family. A pillar!
And that brings me to thinking that fathers really got a big role in a family unit. Lucky are those kids who have complete set of parents. They have a father and they also have a mother. For sure, you know that I am not talking about biological explanation. I cannot say, though, that those who have one set of parent only are unlucky ones.
A single parent who plays both roles in rearing up children is really a tough job. I think it’s not gonna be a perfect parenting, but if it is really a situation where there is peace in the family, then single parenting can be a choice for the sake of a child/children.
I love to see girls spending quality time with their dad. They don’t mean that they love their mothers less but I just knew that little girls share extra special bond with their father. A father who share
wonderful father-daughter bond is an awesome dad.
What do you think?
Fathers today are taking a hands-on, active role in parenting. It is important to remember that a strong foundation for a family is the partnership between the mother and the father. And this relationship needs careful maintenance now. I am just so lucky that my husband is very supportive (and I also know how to balance everything, though), and he understands that I am a first time mom, and that we are still adjusting to my responsibility with our daughter.
I guess all parents go through major changes once a newborn baby arrives, except for well-off families. This period includes the joy of getting to know your child, as well as the demands of feedings and night walking. It leaves less time and energy for your relationship with your partner. The mother’s focus is on the baby, especially if she is breastfeeding. It’s normal to have mixed emotions about the new responsibilities as a father. As the father adjust and gain confidence, nothing will come close to the joy and love he begin to feel for the newest member of his team.
Here’s one of the mother’s day quote that I love. It is by Ryan Crowe. It says: “Your mother is possibly the best friend you will ever have. She loves you when you love her back. She loves you when don’t. She loves you when you cry and when you laugh. She loves you when you are wrong and when you are right. She loves you because you are her child, forever and a day. If you want to catch a glimpse of what the love of God looks like, look at your mother.”
I really agree with the author. A mother’s love is so marvelous that no matter what we do, our mothers continually love us. They are suppose to be our best friend at all times but what usually happens is that some moms have never realized that it is so great to belong to a daughter-mom world.
Mothers are first teachers. And yes, a best friend --- that's what bond I like for my daughter, her best of friends. :-)
As a mom I confess that it is so easy to shop clothes or anything for girls especially little girls. It’s a no sweat task for me. The picking and choosing is no problem, it’s just the time at times is not very favorable. There seem to be so many choices for girls. From their clothes to their hair clips, to their headbands, then down to their socks, shoes, sandals and even more. You just need to have lots of money to buy more than what’s needed for the princess of the house.
While we shop for our daughter /s, and even our hubby, there is one thing we totally forgot. Can you guess what is it? It’s that we forget to shop for ourselves. Right? We are so preoccupied of the things that will make our darling girls look so pretty, and we forgot that we too moms have to maintain our prettiness.
So next time you got out to grab things for your little girls, grab some for you, too!
The decision to have a child is a basic human right of a mommy and a daddy, but it also comes with risks and responsibilities. Responsible parenthood is encouraged as it brings more benefits to all the members of the family and society in general. The benefit from responsible parenthood includes allowing more time for you, as wife and mother, can provide love and attention to your husband and children. Also, this would an opportune time for you to finish a course or even pursue higher education so that you can work and practice your profession to help augment the family income. More importantly, this would provide enough time to regain your health as it usually takes two to three years to fully recover following a delivery. During this time, you can regain your strength and be treated for previous and concurrent illness or diseases. Because you are healthy, you can make sure your babies are healthy, too. So, childbirth spacing is essential.
Some children may be more naturally outgoing than others. I have learned that shyness or inhibition is influenced by genetic and environmental influences. However, mommies/parents/caregivers, I believed that this temperament is not necessarily permanent and does not necessarily determine a child’s personality when she grows up. In fact, these traits can be influenced by time and life experiences. Our daughter is fun to be with. At first, she is a bit shy, but when she feels that you are a good friend to her, she will like you, and she will play with you just like most children.
There are many ways to help a child to overcome shyness. But first, you have to look into why your daughter is too shy for her age. Go back to your earliest recollection of your childhood journey. Were you or your husband shy when you were your daughter’s age? Are either of you shy even up to now? Remember that you are your child’s social model. Your responses and interaction with other people is your child’s first social template. So, do better for her what you have not accomplished or done when you were still young. Imagine how you like her to be, start from there, and do great with her own pace. Good luck mommy! :)
A friend of mine came across this quote and she giggled. “A daughter is a mother's gender partner, her closest ally in the family confederacy, an extension of her self.” I asked her why, and she said, " I believe that I am really my mom’s gender partner because I literally grow up very close to my mom and we almost do things together".
I think mothers and daughters share a very close bond if compared to other members of the family. I do not mean though that sons and moms are not that close, they even said that most have that latter bond which is son and mom that so close. They are but nothing beats a mom and daughter closeness, I think.
I love my daughter very much and somehow when she also grows up to be and adult and decide one day to start her own family, she will be able to share a bond with her kids closely like what we do now. I love my daughter to death. She is the sunshine of my life.
My toddler daughter SAM, just turned 21 months old can already do a lot. She can't speak that much yet and I even think she's a little delayed because of her oral aversion., but nonetheless because she can already utter few words and keeps on imitating me when talking to her (not every time but when she's relax, she's always on the go, as in curious in everything her hand can reach). I just have to keep closely on her speech development and eating status. And teach her more.
It has been months (maybe two or three months ago or so), she started keeping an eye on my feet that every time my feet are naked, she has to find my slippers or shoes and put it back on. It has been her habit, I think, and it amazes me. She's very busy toddler but never forgot to take a look at my feet if it has slippers/shoes on. Ha! She can also open our door bathroom as well as close the doors every time it is open. Looks like she's a door guard, I always tease that to her. :) She can do much more like putting trash in a trashcan, and the likes.
She can also relay a thing on her hand from our living room and just give instruction to give it to her dad in the bedroom --- she always does it perfect. She's a perfect little helper! ;-)
My SAM now understands more and I feel happy with that!
Here are some ways to boost your child’s vocabulary: A mommy or a parent must talk as much and as often as you can directly to your toddler, whether it is carrying on an actual conversation, singing a song or reading to her. Look at her while you talk. Let her see your face and your gestures.
Repetition is the key. If you read her a story, don’t get tired of reading it again and again. Repeat concepts taught as much as you can. Children’s songs are a great way to teach concepts by repetition. Example: My toes, my knees, my shoulder, my head.
Talk to her as you are talking to a grown-up. Kids in a learning journey say the cutest things, such as “wee-wee” for pee, “tenchu” for thank you, “pleet” for please, but don’t let these tempt you into mimicking them during conversations. Hearing you use baby talk may just confuse your toddler and won’t help her language development.
It will be helpful for you to know your child’s temperament, or at least, to have an idea about it. By knowing this, you will gain valuable insight into your child and her behavior. If a child with a difficult temperament is challenging you, you probably wish to get at the root of the problem, mommy. Perhaps you found yourself viewing your child in a negative light by labeling her as cry-baby or a wild child.
I am lucky because my child has a little temperament, or perhaps I am quick to respond to her needs and wants before she explodes. Okay, she's still on her way to "terrible two" and let's see.
I believe that a child with a difficult temperamental is as normal as a child with an easy or slow to warm up temperament. I think, once the parents know and understand the child’s temperament, we can view our child’s behavior objectively. This will help us to refrain from emotionally lashing out or withdrawing from our child.
It is never too early to teach children good manners. Studies show that even at a very young age, kids are already capable of learning and expressing empathy and concern for others. Teaching manners becomes easier when it is a common practice in the household.
As social beings, children learn by doing. From birth onward, children are constantly picking up emotional and behavioral cues from the people around them, such as parents, siblings, caregivers and alike. However, it is not enough to simply tell children what to do and say; showing them by example counts most.
Where do you begin in teaching toddlers good manners? Start with the basics, saying “please” and “thank you”. If your little one wants a bottle of milk, teach her to ask for it in a proper way by stating, “May I have some milk please?” while you are pouring it. When you hand it to her, affirm and say “Thank you.” This is also works well if you and your child are visiting friends and relatives. When she asks for something, remind your child to say please and thank you.
If you are expecting to give birth sometime soon, you want to have extra money in order to care for your child after he or she is born. Babies are expensive and you must be prepared to afford everything they will need. Here are four safe ways to obtain some extra money:
Payday Loans
Payday loans are short term loans that can safely get you cash in as little as 24 hours. There are many companies that offer payday loans and qualifying for one is pretty easy as long as you meet all the requirements, such as having a bank account and a steady job. In general, you have to have been at your job at least 90 days to qualify for a payday loan. Applying for one only takes a couple of minutes and you can apply online from the comfort of your own home. Upon approval, most companies will deposit the money into your bank account right away. Just make sure that when you get your next paycheck from your employer you are able to pay the loan back in full. This is the only truly safe way to obtain money from a payday loan.
Yard Sales
Most of us have at least some possessions we don’t want or need anymore. Having a yard sale and selling these possessions can be a safe way to get some extra cash for when your baby is born. You can either set up a yard sale in your neighborhood or get a table at a flea market. Flea market space must be purchased, so you will want to be fairly certain you will be able to make a profit on the possessions you sell. In the case of a typical yard sale, try to get others in your neighborhood to participate because this will draw more people in.
Offer Services From Home
Another great way to safely obtain some money when you are expecting a baby is to offer services that you can do from the comfort of your own home. If you are artistic, consider making artwork you can sell online or throughout your neighborhood. If you like to read and write, offer to write book reviews for new authors.
Dip Into Your Savings
Hopefully you have a savings account that you can take some money from if you find yourself needing extra money with no way to obtain it.
We never fail to celebrate incomprehensible babblings uttered by our toddler, giving meaning to them as if they were real words. On the other hand, we mommies beat ourselves in frustration when every other child except your own has already begun talking. Indeed, one of the milestones that cause great excitement and anxiety in parents is their child’s speech development. Find out more about why children’s speech development is crucial and how a mommy/parents can help in such journey of your kid.
We use speech to articulate feelings, thoughts and experience from something as primal as hunger to something as complex as anxiety or mixed emotions. For young children, speech is key in expressing preferences, dislikes and intentions. For older school-aged children, it is an indispensable ingredient of reading, spelling, mathematics and writing. Since speech is used in virtually all aspects of our lives, any breakdown, however small, impacts on the quality of our output at home, in school and in the community.
Most of the time we mommy(ies) just cannot get enough sleep because we have work to be done urgently, let alone taking care of our toddlers/kids/babies, and sometimes for those working mommies who work for a certain company which they shift from day to night then for the another week or month will going to shift from night to day -- that such more difficult, I think.
So there is no consistency in the time you slept at night, because of that you cannot get enough sleep, even though you have done your work early but in most nights you slept like 2:00 a.m. or 3:00 a.m. for an example, still even you want to rest early that night still you cant slept, what I did to make my eyes tired and slept early is to read books or listen to mellow music of my little one's favorite lullabies in Pandora (in this way, she and I can sleep together) especially when insomnia attack.
To have enough sleep is very important. This can help our body regain more strength in the next day of working at home or in the office. So make sure to have enough sleep, take vitamins or drink milk before sleeping time.
Toddlers want to feel included and competent, so choose books that your child can follow along with, especially those with repetitive text so she can fill in words. Maintain your toddler’s interest by choosing books with short text on the page, as well as books about topics that you know are of-interest.
For younger toddlers you would want sturdy board books with pictures of kids doing the things they do everyday, nowadays there's already an iPad. Books about bedtime, baths, or mealtime are all good choices, so are books about saying hello or good-bye. Keep active hands busy with lift-the-flap pages and textures to feel.
Toddlers from 24 to 36months are able to turn paper pages, so this is a good time to explore beyond board books. They are also beginning to understand the mechanics of reading and like books that are repetitive and easy to memorize so that they can read along.
A speech delay is basically a communication disorder among children who fail to converse properly when compared with other children of the same age. The cause may be because the child is busy learning other skills or she does not get much attention on her speech. Poor balanced diet and emotional stress may also contribute to speech delay. Or, those children whose parents are abusive are likely to have speech delay, mainly due to lack of communication. At times, physical causes such as mental retardation also lead to speech disorder.
Remember that just like other areas of development, a child develops verbally at her own pace. Some toddlers are already point out their body parts before they walk, others not well into their second year. Whatever the case, be patient; as long as you are exposing her to talking or talking to her often, then you just have to sit back and let nature take its course.
Life insurance is something that that some people just own as standard and other people journey just have when they have to. There are many reasons why having life insurance may or may not be a good idea. It is dependent on age, but very much determined by your responsibilities in life expectancy. Life insurance appropriation is discussed in more detail below.
As a singleton
If you are not in a long term relationship and have no dependents, then you may not feel that life insurance is for you. It is something that will pay out on death and may be something that would normally be considered to provide some money for dependents if a person dies. However, it can be worth taking it out to cover the cost of a funeral or any other expenses that may occur at death. There may also be family such as parents or siblings that a person may like to have some money after they have died.
As a spouse/partner
It is more likely that life insurance will be deemed as necessary if in a relationship. There may be shared expenses that need to be covered or it may be felt that it would be a nice gesture to leave something for the partner. The life insurance could be set up to pay out a lump sum which could be used or invested or it could be set up to provide a regular income which could be very useful.
As a parent
If you have dependents, such as children, then it is likely that you will want to make sure that they are well provided for if anything happens to you. Life insurance could provide a good sum of money that will help to pay for day to day expenses. It may pay off some debts or bills or even provide an income. It can help a mommy/daddy/family with any funeral costs, inheritance tax or other expenses that may need to be covered.
As a homeowner
If you have a mortgage, then you will have to get life insurance to pay off the mortgage should you die. This will last only for the term of the mortgage and only pay out enough to cover the value of the mortgage. This is useful as the house will then be paid off so no one is left with the responsibility of having to find the money to pay the mortgage.
In retirement
In retirement it may be felt that it would be good to have some life insurance to pay out to loved ones in death. If there is not much to inherit, it could mean that there will be a nice amount of money to help those left behind.
When taking out life insurance, health and age are considered. This means that taking it out at a younger age is a lot cheaper. It is therefore worth considering this as well, when thinking about having it. It may be worth buying a home in a journey at a young age as the insurance will be less than if you do it older. It may be better to save up money to leave after you die, rather than pay life insurance in retirement which could be very expensive.
Nowadays, mostly both parents are working in order to live comfortable, to sustain the needs of the family and in order to send their children to a good school. However, there are some disadvantages of over-delegating task to the caregiver or to the school, to watch out their children's manner and to care with them at home is not an obligation of the caregiver anymore (unless if one of the parents is the caregiver as as well -- or she's the one taking care of the child, mostly a mom which is often called as stay-at-home-mom) but it is the the parents obligation! On the other side, if you're delegating (should I say, over-delegating) your task to other person (or the caregiver), the effect to the children on that case is that they are more comfortable with their nanny(ies) than to the their parents, the worst case is that the child won’t go anymore with their mom and dad but they want more to be accompanied with their nannies. That’s why even once a week you must have time with your family, family bonding is needed, in order for your children to feel that you are not too far from them.
A thought of family bonding is up to you couples. You can make your very own bonding on your very own ways that both of you will be satisfied in all ways.
Just thinking of making this post just in my own views about those young moms.
No wonder there are lots of young moms, those teenagers got married to their young age. And to took children in early time, which they did not enjoy their teenage life, they thought to be a mom is an easy job, but they are wrong.
I can tell that to be a mom is not easy, it is really difficult to be a young mom. I have friends who can tell how it is to be. Young moms, is now very common. Girls in their younger age dared to be a mom. That is scary, they just do not realize the real role of being a mother.
So teens out there, careful and take time on your singleness do not run into marriage if you are not ready and settled enough. I can tell you, marriage as well as being a real mom, is not easy!
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