Do you ever wish that your child be a perfect child just like you? I mean in the behavioral aspect? Some (or maybe most) parents are like that, which is not a bad thing. They encourage the kids to be like the things they used to like when they were kids. They teach kids ways or hobbies that they used to when they were still young. And if the child can show a behavior that is not like them, they scold the child. Parents like this forgot that the child is a combination of two genes – the mom and the dad. The mom did not realized that her kid is just half of her. So the kid can never be a replica of what she is. Maybe in looks, they can be so much alike but in ways, they can never be. Even twins, they can never be alike in all things but of course they love each other so much.
I love parents who love their kids in spite of their differences especially when kids make goals in life. I admire parents who encourage their kids to pursue whatever their kids wish to be when they grow up. I can just imagine what some adults feel when they are living a life that is a choice of their parents which they can't take. Of course, I wish everyone the best!
The decision to have a child is a basic human right of a mommy and a daddy, but it also comes with risks and responsibilities. Responsible parenthood is encouraged as it brings more benefits to all the members of the family and society in general. The benefit from responsible parenthood includes allowing more time for you, as wife and mother, can provide love and attention to your husband and children. Also, this would an opportune time for you to finish a course or even pursue higher education so that you can work and practice your profession to help augment the family income. More importantly, this would provide enough time to regain your health as it usually takes two to three years to fully recover following a delivery. During this time, you can regain your strength and be treated for previous and concurrent illness or diseases. Because you are healthy, you can make sure your babies are healthy, too. So, childbirth spacing is essential.
Some children may be more naturally outgoing than others. I have learned that shyness or inhibition is influenced by genetic and environmental influences. However, mommies/parents/caregivers, I believed that this temperament is not necessarily permanent and does not necessarily determine a child’s personality when she grows up. In fact, these traits can be influenced by time and life experiences. Our daughter is fun to be with. At first, she is a bit shy, but when she feels that you are a good friend to her, she will like you, and she will play with you just like most children.
There are many ways to help a child to overcome shyness. But first, you have to look into why your daughter is too shy for her age. Go back to your earliest recollection of your childhood journey. Were you or your husband shy when you were your daughter’s age? Are either of you shy even up to now? Remember that you are your child’s social model. Your responses and interaction with other people is your child’s first social template. So, do better for her what you have not accomplished or done when you were still young. Imagine how you like her to be, start from there, and do great with her own pace. Good luck mommy! :)
Here are some ways to boost your child’s vocabulary: A mommy or a parent must talk as much and as often as you can directly to your toddler, whether it is carrying on an actual conversation, singing a song or reading to her. Look at her while you talk. Let her see your face and your gestures.
Repetition is the key. If you read her a story, don’t get tired of reading it again and again. Repeat concepts taught as much as you can. Children’s songs are a great way to teach concepts by repetition. Example: My toes, my knees, my shoulder, my head.
Talk to her as you are talking to a grown-up. Kids in a learning journey say the cutest things, such as “wee-wee” for pee, “tenchu” for thank you, “pleet” for please, but don’t let these tempt you into mimicking them during conversations. Hearing you use baby talk may just confuse your toddler and won’t help her language development.
It will be helpful for you to know your child’s temperament, or at least, to have an idea about it. By knowing this, you will gain valuable insight into your child and her behavior. If a child with a difficult temperament is challenging you, you probably wish to get at the root of the problem, mommy. Perhaps you found yourself viewing your child in a negative light by labeling her as cry-baby or a wild child.
I am lucky because my child has a little temperament, or perhaps I am quick to respond to her needs and wants before she explodes. Okay, she's still on her way to "terrible two" and let's see.
I believe that a child with a difficult temperamental is as normal as a child with an easy or slow to warm up temperament. I think, once the parents know and understand the child’s temperament, we can view our child’s behavior objectively. This will help us to refrain from emotionally lashing out or withdrawing from our child.
No two people will have exactly the same parenting style. We all come to parenting with our individual family histories, our personalities, strengths and weaknesses. Whether you are conscious of it or not, each one of us has a unique personal style of relating.
We all have patterns of behavior which simply affect our relationships. These repeated patterns of behavior make up our unique style as it is perceived by others. Mothers and fathers begin the parenting journey with the complex interaction between their own two styles, and then layer on the interaction with their baby, who brings her own temperament to the table. As you interact with your baby, you will learn more about yourself, your style and your parent’s style. Although any behavior is also guided by the specific factors of a situation, your state of mind and stress level, you will have a style that is typical for you most of the time.
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